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Friday, July 17, 2009


Before i had a kid, i always tell myself that WHEN i have one, i will try my best not to fall into the "kiasu singaporean" mentality trap.

and i guess, God made it a little easier by bringing us out of the country, so there's very little pressure for us and almost zero comparison with kaira's peers in singapore.

but i do participate in the motherhood forums and "learn" through the sharing by other mummies who are looking for schools/childcare for their children ...e.g. that some "popular" places have long waiting lists; that there are mummies who enrol their "yet to be born" child in schools and so forth.

guess every parent wants their best for their child. Just that such actions result in a vicious cycle which is difficult to break, thus fuelling the "kiasu" trap.

and equally "responsible" (may be even more so) for this vicious cycle, are the schools' management. what sensible management would allow a practice such as registering an unborn child? why open up registrations so early in advance resulting in "long queues" ?

the "parent volunteer" scheme for primary school enrolment is another ridiculous thing to me. i really don't know what i will do if i am in singapore.

Anyway, I digress.

i had wanted to say that i realise that i am not able to totally "erase" that "kiasu" DNA in me :(

for our time here, our "general" plan for her education is this : she goes to international school when she is of school going age i.e. age 4 here. from there, we will see how things go.

as for pre-school, my original thought was maybe send her to a dutch pre-school (called peuter plaza) here, so that she can have a good foundation for the language. just in case our stay here becomes longer than we expect. and the playgroup that i bring her to, is in one of these pre-schools and i really like the lady teacher there. she's very caring, loving and i can imagine kaira being in good hands if she attends that pre-school.

plus, i thought it'd be good to "immerse" her in the "local culture", make frens in the neighbourhood etc. that's what it means to live abroad i believe. not living in our own cocoon.

found out recently that the international primary school has an independent nursery attached to it.

hmmmm, now i am contemplating whether to send her there instead next year. but i have not met the teachers there, so not sure how it is.

will 1.5 - 2 years in a dutch pre-school affect her "standards" when she joins the int'l school i wonder?

what if we go back to singapore just before she starts primary school, how "far behind" will she be compared to her peers? maybe i should (if i could) send her to int'l school in singapore in that case.

seriously are these issues at all??? sometimes i wonder. why am i even worried about it now??

she's just a kid!! she should be enjoying herself.

education is afterall, not just about acquiring knowledge. it is about building one's character. building friendships. preparing us to contribute to the society we live in.

may the education she receives (in school or otherwise) prepare her for the lifelong journey of enjoying the life that God has given her.


k@Ye_ said...

Psst, something to share. I got a cousin, her family gets relocated to different parts of the world almost like every 3 years.

So when the whole family is back in SG finally when my nephew is 16yrs old. She has 2 children, the elder one has no issue as she is ready for uni. But my nephew has to study in the International Sch in Singapore as the curriculum he was exposed to is entirely different while abroad..

My cousin's family has been to UK, US & Indonesia and some other places which i cant recall.

And she is lucky that her hubby's co paid for the int'l sch fees when they finally relocated back if not SURE JIALAT.

So, i guess u might hv to think abt it... Another thing is the Chinese language... I think my niece & nephew can't speak them... but heng, they still know how to speak their own dialect.

Ms Long said...

hi k@ye, thanks for sharing!

for kaira, i intend to send her for chinese lessons once she can go (they have a weekend chinese school here, but i think 4 years old or something then can go for class)....hopefully she will be able to speak chinese! dialect, think she no "hope" liao ... cos i focusing on mandarin and english at home. and when she goes to pre-school, hopefully she learns some dutch. no one speaks to her in her dialect at home.

k@Ye_ said...

Haha, u n hubby can attempt to speak some dialect to her. As for the Chinese, i think its difficult coz if she continues to be in Holland n not much Chinese speaking ppl ard her... She might be resistant coz most peers dun speak Chinese mah... :)

That's what happen to my Mum's fren son. He is 9 yrs old, born & grow up in Sydney. My Mum's fren sent him to Chinese lessons but he is resistant to it.